Dear Moms – Part 2

Motherhood | December 5, 2016 | By

Mom-ing is hard.

This may not entirely fit in perfectly with the last Dear Moms post, but it’s definitely a continuation. 

This is not a “pity me” post.  It’s simply an “I can resonate with you – you are not in this alone” post.  

I just wanted to confirm to you all that being a mom, well, it’s the hardest job there is.  

I know I would have scoffed at that sentence before I had kids.  Even during my first pregnancy.  But wow.  It’s literally 24/7.  Even when they aren’t home, you’re washing their clothes, cooking their meals, or worrying about them.  Do you know what I mean?  It takes a toll on your brain.  I think that’s probably why I can’t seem to remember which day is what, or why I walked into the dining room in the first place.  Why am I here?  What am I forgetting?  So many times!  I know other moms feel the same.  I’ve listened to them about it.  It’s not just me.  And it’s not just you.  

The last post was about moms with newborns.  This is for moms who are moving past that stage, and are trying to figure out how to have some normalcy in life.   Each stage is hard.  Just different kinds of hard.  Having three kids in about three years – I was exposed to all of the earlier stages at once.  I can honestly say that I can’t remember so much of the last 5 years.  I was either so tired, frazzled, or busy with the little ones that my brain just decided that it couldn’t keep with inputting memories.  It was too busy trying to stay awake, or to focus on any one thing (instead of trying to think of everything all the time – which happens more often than not).

Dear Moms - Part 2 | Whisks and Wooden Spoons

From having a literal line up at the change table (why would two of them decide to poop at the same time?), to nightmares (“Mommy is so tired, can you please try to stop thinking about bad things?” <— Do I sound/feel selfish much?  Yes.  I will reiterate that last Mom post.  Motherhood shows you how selfish you really are, and bring out lots of other less-than-lovely things about yourself, that you may not have realized.).  We’ve got spills happening at least 3 times a day, sometimes more.  The patience it takes to not explode when someone spills the fifth cup of whatever (or somehow manages to slop their entire bowl of stew on the floor before taking a single bite), is immense.  So much patience required.  

There are so many things that try our patience, that help us grow, to become better parents along the way.  And the best part?  Our kids love us.  No matter how many times we might lose our patience a little bit too quickly, they forgive and forget.  They don’t understand how hard it is, but  they do have little innocent hearts, that love quickly, and immensely.  They know we will not stop loving them if they somehow manage to spill every drink in one day.  They somehow have this great mechanism for forgetting that we were mad at them.  Especially if we humble ourselves enough to ask their forgiveness for exploding a little bit too much.  Those little hearts are so precious.  

We’ve been tasked with the care of those little hearts.  To guide them and to guard them.  It is oh-so humbling to remember that every day.  That we’ve been blessed with these littles, not burdened with them.  Sometimes that is a hard thing to bring back to the forefront.  I know that sounds horrible.  But it’s truth.  They feel like a burden at times.  Mostly when they’re all screaming at crying and you want to go hide somewhere and cry too.  If you haven’t had kids yet – don’t let that scare you.  Every day is not like that, every moment is different.  You can go from screaming and crying to having a special kitchen dance party, or seeing your littlest ones sharing ever so nicely.  There are so many beautiful moments that happen.  When you see your oldest trying to help your youngest, or explaining to his brother why doing something was wrong (their logic is hilarious sometimes, listen closely to what they say).

Kids are actually hilarious.  They have the funniest senses of humour, and say the darndest things.  Quite literally, they are the best form of comedy.  And lame, though my jokes are, they think I’m funny too.  They also think that I’m a pretty special person.  Even though it may seem like they don’t hear you or see you (I think this happens a lot to stay-at-home-moms who are always with their kids), as soon as you are out of their sight for an hour, they are more than excited to see you when you get home.  They need a break from us sometimes, even as we need one from them.  

I laugh more being a mom then in anything else I’ve ever done.  Yes.  It’s hard.  I will never ever tell anyone that parenting is easy.  It’s heart-wrenching sometimes.  I actually don’t like it when people say it’s “rewarding”.  I didn’t have kids to be rewarded.  But there are moments that you wouldn’t change for the world.  Little spots in a day that you want to etch in stone.  Write those down.  Remember them somehow.  Then on the hard days, you can look back and remember that these are kids.  They aren’t just little crazies that are out to get you all the time.  They are little hearts, trying to figure out the huge, crazy world we live in, and how they fit in it.  Hopefully they are learning by watching you.  

You are not in this alone, Mama.  We’re all in this together, regardless of the different ways we approach things.  We’ve all got a few things in common – We love our kids, and want to do right by them.  We are human, and make mistakes.  We don’t know what we’re doing.  I will take every prayer, listen to advice (not necessarily use said advice), and love to talk to moms about what they’re doing with their kids – what works, and what they need help with.  Bounce ideas off of one another.  It helps so much.  

Enjoy those kiddos this holiday season, see the wonder in their eyes as you put up trees, as you pass beautiful light displays on the road.  Remember that they are the most amazing gift.  Those sweet children, who aren’t always all that sweet.  Remember the moments spent.  

Sorry if this was hard to follow at all – my brain is a bit scattered.  (Probably an understatement.)  I hope you were able to glean some encouragement from this.  Merry First Week of December!

 

 

Deuteronomy 6:5-7
 You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.

 

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For the Love of Lists – Week 16

Lists for Days | November 21, 2016 | By

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I’ve started my Christmas shopping!  Barely, but it’s a start, right?  And I’m slowly starting to pull some decorations/Christmas-themed things out of storage.  We attended Jordan’s staff Christmas dinner this weekend, so we really had to get into a bit of a Christmas mode.  It was really nice.  Good food, loud music (I’m a sucker for a loud bass, believe it or not – ha!), dressing up, great company.  It was pretty great.  

There is a food post on the way this week – I’ve just got to put it together, and finish eating the pan of squares.  

Love of Lists 16 - Whisks and Wooden Spoons

For the list this week, we’ve got diy, recipes <– of course!, books, clothes, encouraging articles.  A little bit of everything.  Seriously check out the ornaments, they are so great.  And the books would make a great Christmas gift!

  1. I love the style of the pictures on this blog, and I adore her writing.  This White Chocolate Ricotta Cheesecake she’s created takes the cake – it looks amazing!
  2. I found the sweetest diy ornaments EVER.  They’re SO cute!
  3. I love eggnog.  Eggnog fudge?  Sounds amazing!  Somebody make it and give me a piece!  (If I make it, I’ll eat it all.
  4. Currently reading a Nicholas Sparks.  This guy – he pulls me in and I don’t like to put the book down.  Such easy reads, so enticing.  This one it pretty good so far.  I read this one awhile ago – it was a bit different for him, but still really good.  
  5. These pj pants are so comfy-looking, and adorable too!
  6. I made this pulled pork (in the slow cooker!!) recipe for a potluck this weekend.  I’ve made it before.  It’s pretty awesome.  It has jam in it, which gives it a great extra layer of flavour.  
  7. I also made some Cran-Apple Toffee Blondies.  That recipe will be up soon.  Promise.   😉
  8. This is a great MOM post.  “When You Just Want Your Kids to Leave You Alone”  Humbling.  I need to be reminded of this often. 
  9. Some Christmas cookie inspiration.  These are so pretty, and classic.

And there you have it folks!  The list of the week.  

Would you like to see a Christmas baking compilation at some point?  

**A reminder for the week from my chalkboard cupboard

A Month In Pictures – September

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September. 

Where are you?!

I seriously don’t know where it went. 

Wayy too fast, as seems to be my song and dance these days.  The hours, days, weeks, months… years!  They just whiz by me like a bullet.  Light-speed even.  I know I’ve mentioned this before, and will again, but WOW!  I really don’t understand how it happens so fast.  

Sunglasses baby! - September Month In Pictures

My Jude Dude - September Month in Pictures

 

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We started homeschooling, ate many meals, and too many cookies, enjoyed the amazingly warm weather, got to the beach a few final times, appreciated the company of friends and family, and made some new friends!  Park dates, at the house play dates.  The kids definitely had fun. 

And I did too!  A dear friend came for a visit from wayy down in the States, and we got to go out for supper with some other equally dear & amazing friends.  We had visits at the house, and got to go for coffee together.  I love keeping in touch with people.  

Longtime friends - September Month in Pictures

Cookies! - September Month in Pictures

Imagination Station Breakfast - September Month in Pictures

Hubby and a friend of ours started making cheese at home.  They’re starting to get pretty good at it.  

We had 60th wedding anniversary celebrations for a sweet couple in the family.  (60 years!  It’s that crazy!?)

It was a pretty busy month!  (Aren’t they all?)  And it was a beautiful month.  I saw someone recently use the tag #sutumn on a post.  (Summer + Autumn… get it?)  Because it’s now October and it is so nice people are still going for a swim now and then.  I have pulled out some shorts (so great!) on more than one occasion.  

**I bought Briar some shades on clearance.  They are SO funny.  And she rocks them with all she’s got!  She’s really coming into a funny, spitfire personality as she nears on her second birthday.

**Jude generally doesn’t like pictures.  But I grabbed this one, even though it’s blurry.  He has such a sweet smile, it melts Mommy’s heart. 

**My friend from away and Briar Bear!  It is soooo special to me to see my kids connect with friends that are uber important to me.  I’m lucky enough to have some living close by, but this girl is away.  So it was fantastic to see her and Briar together again.

**Girls night out!  So much fun. Great food.  It took us about 45 minutes to order because we couldn’t stop talking long enough to look at the menus.  Ha.  

**We make cookies on a weekly basis-ish.  These were so yummy and cute!  We also cooked up some molasses cookies, and I can’t remember what else!

**Imagination Station: Breakfast Edition.  Jude has the most brilliant imagination!  It’s so fun to watch these two play together (when they aren’t arguing!).  

A Month in Pictures

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I was thinking that maybe I should do a series called, “A Year In Pictures”, instead of just a month, seeing as I’ve had such a bad rap as far as posting regularly in the past 3 or so years.  But, we can strive to improve, right?  Even when we’re in the midst of three kids driving us absolutely bonkers at times.  Right?  

Right? 

Somebody please tell me I’m not the only one going crazy. 

Breakfast Smiles

Really though, as much as they might drive me insane, they are pretty darn cute.  And I really want to document their cute, ever-growing faces here.  So a MONTH in pictures it shall be.  Maybe someday we’ll be able to get down to a week in pics.  That’d be something, eh?

We’ve been loving the warm weather.  I really feel like it’s been a great summer here!  So much warm weather.  Only one straight week of rain since May.  That’s got to be a record.  At least for the last few years.  It’s been hot.  I.  LOVE.  Hot.  

We were given a second-hand trampoline from my lovely aunt and uncle, and the kids have been jumping their little hearts out.  Briar has actually become quite an accomplished jumper, for a one-year old!  It’s so funny to watch them all on it.  (Except when it’s not.  Like when they’re driving me bonkers.  But it’s worth it – most of the time.)

Breakfast Smiles - Briar edition

We’ve been at the beach quite a bit, which is lovely.  The summer outside times remind me why I don’t work full-time.  Being able to hang outside with the kids is awesome.  

Cael - Chopping Help

This month of pictures comes to you from JUNE, because I refuse to believe that July is almost over.  There must be a scientific explanation for why summer flies by like a bat out of heck, where winter only flies at a breakneck speed.  Anyone know why?  It’s craziness.  I suppose it’s because we try to cramp alllll the fun outside things in a couple of months.  But hey, what can you do?  Let’s enjoy it.  It’s pretty amazing.  

Jude - Horseback

***Believe it or not, it’s super hard to catch a picture of Jude smiling!  He doesn’t like the camera.  Breakfast is the best time.  

***Briar loves her breakfast too.  Can you tell? 

***Cael’s learning how to help Mommy chop stuff.  Rhubarb here – freezing a bunch for winter.

***That photo-scared Jude is not-too-scared-to-ride-a-horse-though Jude.  Funny, eh?  

That wraps up photos for June.  I’ll get to July in a few weeks! 

 

Whole Wheat Cinnamon Rolls

It DOES feel like fall.  And much too soon, in my opinion.  I’ve switched from shorts, a tank, and sandals to socks, sweaters, and leggings in a week.  From iced coffee to hot vanilla nut tea and hot chocolate.  (Not that it’s bad, just different, and MUCH too soon.)  I digress…

My counter.  Technically, it’s the desk my wonderful father made for me in elementary school, that I absolutely love.  But right now, it’s serving some time as a kitchen counter.  I was looking at it this evening after I put cinnamon rolls in the oven, and came to the conclusion that it’s a lot like my life.

Desk Explosion

Look at the organized clutter, the spattering of flour and cinnamon, the balancing of the laptop.  It’s got character, dents,scrapes, and doodles.  Lots of love oozes out of it when I think of the time and love my daddy poured into it as he made it.  (It’s got to be my favourite Christmas present ever.  Seconded by the hope chest he made me a few years later.)  My life is like my desk.  Organized, but in a messy, ‘only-I-know-where-everything-is-but-it-REALLY-is-organized’, kind of way.  Cluttered like my brain, jumping and crashing from one thought to the next.  Spattered like the laughter, screams, squeals, and tears of my family, throughout every day.  My life has had its share of dents and scrapes.  Doodles are the fun, quirky times.  So much love has been shoved into my life, and so much love squeezes out of me.  It’s give and take kind-o-deal.

There you go.  My life in a desk.  Didn’t think you’d ever come across that comparison now, did you?

On the other hand…

I may or may not need more counter space.  Either way, I had just enough room, in this cluttered mess, to make Whole Wheat Cinnamon Rolls.  I’m not going to share the recipe, I’ll just send you over to Piping Dreams for that.  But I did just want to say hey, and share a few photos.  Sorry (yet again) for being disconnected the past year.  Spring was crazy.  I thought, ‘Surely I’ll have some down time in the summer!’.  I was wrong.  Now that summer has flown by, and fall is at my heels, I’m thinking, ‘I must MAKE time through the fall and winter months!’.  Will it happen?  Only time will tell.

Whole Wheat Cinnamon Rolls

But for now, I leave you with cinnamon and clove scents wafting through my kitchen into yours.  As Lauren says in her post, these only take 30 minutes TOPS to whip up.  You can have your house smelling like mine in no time.  Or you can come over for coffee right now… or in the morning.  Whichever.

Whole Wheat Cinnamon Rolls

My hubby couldn’t wait for me to even get pictures, before he tried snatching a cinnamon roll.  What I didn’t tell him was that they were whole wheat.  Will he notice?  I haven’t heard any comments yet.  I’ll let you know.  (Sneaky wife here, trying to get him to eat healthier…  Do cinnamon rolls count as healthier?  Imma say yes.  Why not?)

If you really aren’t into whole wheat, check out these bad boys:  Nanny’s Cinnamon Rolls.  Yummmm!

Or these:  Apple Jelly Tea Rolls.  So good.  Soooo fall-ish.

Pictures of the kiddos you say?  Why, sure!

Cael's Fedora

Jude's new hat

{Hats all around.  Cael wearing his uncle’s fedora, and Jude’s new hat knit by a great friend of the family}

I have a hat fetish.  There are so many awesome hats that look absolutely adorable on little boys…  *sigh.